Ben Affleck credits the media mockery that haunted his relationship with Jennifer Lopez and the two movie bombs the pair made together as helping him "grow up." Following the demise of his engagement to the megastar and the failure of Jersey Girl and Gigli, the Hollywoodland actor kept his distance from the Hollywood spotlight and reflected on his inner self. "I try to appreciate what a privleged life I have, and the great things about being in a business that doesn't encourage self-control, I'm more humble, less callous about certain things, but also not given to beating myself up so much. It took me a long time to grow up, find my center, evolve."