Monday, October 20, 2008

Man Fashion: Why Man Cheat?

Dear readers, I just came across this interesting survey, and thought of sharing with all of you here as well as listen to your comments.

What makes men cheat? Marriage counselor M. Gary Neuman surveyed 200 cheating and non cheating husbands to get at the real reasons behind men's infidelity. So here are some of his findings. Let see whether you do agree on these points.

1. 48% of men rated emotional dissatisfaction as the primary reason they cheated.
So much for the myth that for men, cheating is all about physical intimacy. According to the author: "But men are emotionally driven beings too. They want their women to show them that they're appreciated, and they want women to understand how hard they're trying to get things right." The problem is that men are less likely than women to express these feelings, so you won't always know when your guy is in need of a little affirmation. "Most men consider it unmanly to ask for a pat on the back, which is why their emotional needs are often overlooked," Neuman says.

2.
66% of cheating men report feeling guilt during the affair.
Clearly, guilt isn't enough to stop a man from cheating. "Men are good at compartmentalizing feelings," Neuman explains. "They can hold on to their emotions and deal with them later." So even if your partner swears he would never cheat, don't assume it can't happen. It's important for both of you to take steps toward creating the relationship you want.

3. 77% of cheating men have a good friend who cheated.
Hanging around friends who stray makes cheating seem normal and legitimizes it as a possibility. The message he's subconsciously telling himself: "My friend is a good guy who happens to be cheating on his wife. I guess even the best of us do it." Hey, I just wonder is this the reason?

4. 40% of cheating men met the other woman at work.
"Oftentimes the woman he cheats with at the office is someone who praises him, looks up to him, and compliments his efforts," Neuman says.

5. Only 12% of cheating men said their mistress was more physically attractive than their wife.
n other words, a man doesn't stray because he thinks he'll get lucky with a better-looking body.

6. 73%
of cheating men had physical intimacy with a woman after meeting her more than a month.

Source:
Hearst Communications, Inc